*hugs* I have a housemate with that problem, although his tanties are more leveled at his computer, PS3 remote that cost him 80 dollars to replace after getting frustrated with the game, mind you, it was well after middnight and I could hear him from my room right down the hall, and Kat, who fortunately sleeps through her fiance's rage outbursts gets annoyed when she hears of what he does... I sat him down one day after he went loco of\ver one of the kittens doing something, I was so mad I threatened to get an Apprehension order if he didn't get help, he has since talked to Kath and I and is getting anger counciling. we have already noticed a difference after two appointments, and after his last explosion I talkeed to him for three hours about life and things he had piled up inside, most family related, he just needed an ear - a lot of us guys do have problems expressing emotion, but personally I decided long ago to buck the trend and always get it off my chest, I think I am a happier and healthier person for it...
Tell him there is nothing wrong in talking things through, even if the person listening can't directly impact the situation, it does really help and maybe he could talk to a counciler, but opening up, taking responsibility fort the damage, (his own expense), will ground him and should highlight the fact that anger will not change what has worked him up. He could have taken the phone off the hook, and dealt with the situation when he was ready to.
If your parents can step up and make you custodian of the internet and phone, even if he had it in his name, in the calm light of day, as a way of making recompense, he should agreee to that and pay for all the damage...
Anyway, that's just my lil thoughts on the topic of guys getting too angry. (I guess that it helped that I did yoga and a reikin training course, (touch for health healing, chi, working with life forces to bring balance to the body, mind and spirit),,, and read a lot of Asian philosophy while studying and for the fun of it, and comparative religions, Native Culture and anthropology for ten years, so it kind of helps in a big way to broaden my outlook on life and stuff).
The story sounds great, I know little of the ffandom, but I know you're a wonderful writer! <3333
Meg Cabet sounds good as well! I have to find a audio-book sharing -downloading com on LJ, if you come across one Lady J, could you let me know please, with a cherry on top?*winks*
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Date: 2011-05-21 06:38 am (UTC)Tell him there is nothing wrong in talking things through, even if the person listening can't directly impact the situation, it does really help and maybe he could talk to a counciler, but opening up, taking responsibility fort the damage, (his own expense), will ground him and should highlight the fact that anger will not change what has worked him up. He could have taken the phone off the hook, and dealt with the situation when he was ready to.
If your parents can step up and make you custodian of the internet and phone, even if he had it in his name, in the calm light of day, as a way of making recompense, he should agreee to that and pay for all the damage...
Anyway, that's just my lil thoughts on the topic of guys getting too angry. (I guess that it helped that I did yoga and a reikin training course, (touch for health healing, chi, working with life forces to bring balance to the body, mind and spirit),,, and read a lot of Asian philosophy while studying and for the fun of it, and comparative religions, Native Culture and anthropology for ten years, so it kind of helps in a big way to broaden my outlook on life and stuff).
The story sounds great, I know little of the ffandom, but I know you're a wonderful writer! <3333
Meg Cabet sounds good as well! I have to find a audio-book sharing -downloading com on LJ, if you come across one Lady J, could you let me know please, with a cherry on top?*winks*
*begs* <3
XOXO
Enjoy your weekend!